Deciding when it’s time for your parent to move into assisted living can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to figure it out alone! Here’s a guide to recognizing when your loved one might need some extra support—and how you can help them make the best choice.

Physical Changes Are daily tasks like bathing, dressing, or getting around the house becoming tricky? If you’ve noticed more falls or they’re having trouble with stairs, they might need a little more help than what’s possible at home. Ongoing health issues or frequent hospital stays are also a sign they could benefit from professional care.

Changes in Memory or Mood Is your parent struggling with memory—like missing doses of medication or getting confused about where they are? Maybe you’ve noticed they’re quieter or seem down lately. Assisted living communities offer structure, social interaction, and a watchful eye—all things that can boost their well-being.

At-Home Safety Sometimes the house just becomes too much! If things aren’t as tidy as usual, meals are missed, or groceries are piling up, it could be time to consider a more supportive environment. Is there evidence of risky behaviors like wandering or leaving the stove on?

Feeling Lonely If your parent no longer drives or sees friends as often, they might be missing out on community and fun. Assisted living can open up chances for new friendships and activities that keep loneliness away.

Caregiver Stress If you or other family members are stretched thin, it’s okay to ask for help. Assisted living can provide the care your parent needs—letting you focus on enjoying time together instead of feeling worn out.

Money & Daily Details Sometimes keeping up with bills, home repairs, and grocery shopping gets to be too much. Assisted living communities can help with day-to-day tasks and may actually cost less than maintaining a home with lots of needs.

How to Decide Keep an eye out for patterns rather than single events—everyone forgets a bill now and then! Talk openly with your parent about how they’re feeling and what they want. Professionals like doctors or social workers can also help you decide what’s best.

What if it’s Urgent?

If your parent’s safety is at risk—for example, if they’re wandering, not eating, or have had a medical emergency—don’t wait. Call their doctor or a local social worker for immediate help. Remember, you’re not alone! Many families go through this, and finding the right care can make life better for both you and your parent.

Can my parent stay safe and happy at home?

Are their physical, social, and emotional needs being met?

Am I (or other caregivers) stretched too thin?

Are there affordable ways to give them more support?

What’s Next?

Start talking early! Don’t wait for a crisis. Work together to find an option that feels right.

Let your parent tour communities and weigh in on decisions.

Reach out—family, friends, and counselors are great resources for support.